Frequent topics in my work
Depression | Loneliness | Anxiety | Addiction | Self-Esteem | Relationships | Couples
One thing I can tell you for sure: I am not the typical psychotherapist and counsellor.
Warm-hearted by nature, very clear and precise in my thinking – most people know precisely who they are dealing with. I also have a good sense of humour (at least I like to think so). And I don’t believe that counselling should be a strange, distant or somehow unpleasant experience. Quite the opposite: you will only be able to understand yourself and solve your problems if you and I have a warm, welcoming relationship at eye level.
My foundation is person-centred counselling or talking therapy. This means I work in an empathetic, authentic and appreciative way with you to find the good reasons for a behavioural pattern that is not working so well. Yes, I have a degree in psychology, qualified as a psychotherapist and am learning all the time to be a skilled counsellor psychologist. But none of that makes me an expert for your life. Only you are! I am the one who helps you unravel your inside knot with a natural flowing conversation to help you achieve the change you wish to see.
You will not find me to be judgmental. In fact, if you have chosen to trust me, I consider that a very special thing. I do not intend to harm this unique therapeutic relationship, because it is only within this framework that we can recover and function.
But there are a few loose ends that don’t work well at all.
By and large, things seem to be working well. You have a solid career position – but this might be at risk if you don’t change something soon. You take care of yourself from time to time – although not nearly enough. You do not annoy anyone when things are going badly – which unfortunately also leaves you lonely. You still have your dreams – you only move a little further away from them every day.
You’re not perfect, but you’ve made it this far – and it’s time for you to recognise that.
Sometimes, however, you have this nagging feeling that some or even most things in your life are no longer working: you feel burnt out. You are lonely. You are nothing but sad. You are anxious. Your relationship is on the rocks. You have an addiction problem or a problem with food that nobody knows about. You want to change this, but somehow you can’t. And all the strategies you’ve tried so far haven’t helped.
Maybe you have considered counselling, but the idea makes you feel uncomfortable. To be honest, there is also a bit of fear about how the counsellor may think about you. You have the feeling that such a move is rather drastic or exaggerated.
It can be different. Person-centred counselling happens on an equal level and accepts you exactly as you are! As a people-centred counsellor, I stand out from other approaches (such as psychoanalysis or behavioural therapy) in the following ways:
We see all of the person (not only the individual problem).
As a result, our goal is not to solve a specific problem in a stand-alone approach. Instead, the focus is on your overall mental fitness. Helping you cope with both the current problem and later difficulties in a better way: becoming more independent, more responsible, less confused, better organised.
Our focus is the here and now (not the early childhood unconscious).
For us, there is rarely a need to ask “why” or to do a comprehensive analysis of childhood. This is because the significant patterns always show up today as well.
We focus on your strengths (not your deficits).
It is about you and what you can do – not about your psychological state. We see you as the expert in your life, which you are.
We emphasise your individual freedom.
In person-centred counselling, we see the potential which is inherent in individual freedom – both large and small. Specifically, one way in which this is manifested is that the client brings his or her own problems into the session and effectively “leads” the entire session (not the therapist). As such, the approach is ideal for people who are motivated by self-knowledge and are willing to work towards the solution of their problems.
The therapeutic relationship itself is an important part of therapy.
What is known as the therapeutic relationship provides a positive experience and is the key element of therapy in our work. In a climate of conversation that is non-judgmental, respectful and empathetic, people succeed in understanding themselves, making important decisions on their own and building good relationships with other people. Just as we have been mentally damaged by dysfunctional relationships, we can be healed by good relationships.
Does the public health insurance in Germany cover your counselling?
This counselling is a strictly private service and unfortunately not covered by the public health insurance. With private health insurance, there is sometimes the option of having the costs covered. However, this is rather the exception, as I do not charge according to the scale of fees for psychotherapists (GOP), which is often a prerequisite for private health insurance. It is recommended that you check the insurance plan you have signed up for.
Can I come to you as a health insurance patient via the cost reimbursement procedure?
I’m afraid not. I can actually only work with patients who pay for themselves.
What qualifications do you have?
I am a qualified psychologist (TU Berlin 2004), a state-licensed alternative practitioner for psychotherapy, a person-centred counsellor certified by the GwG (Gesellschaft für Personzentrierte Psychotherapie und Beratung e.V.) and am currently training in person-centred psychotherapy (also by the GwG). At the DFI (German Focusing Institute) I was trained in Focusing, another humanistic form of therapy with a stronger emphasis on the body. Through regular supervision and training therapy with a person-centred colleague, I take deliberate care of my own personal development and ensure that I consistently provide my clients with the best support.
Do you also work with children and young people?
I work with both adults and young people.
However, I’m afraid I’m neither trained nor equipped to work with children.
Which psychological approach do you apply?
My foundation is the person-centred approach to counselling and psychotherapy – also known as talking therapy. It was founded by the American psychologist Carl Rogers and focuses on the therapist’s empathic and authentic attitude and on the respect he or she shows to the client. For us, this means meeting the client in an non-judgmental and open-minded way. Person-centred counselling and therapy belongs to the group of humanistic therapies.
Besides humanistic psychotherapy as a major “line”, there are also psychodynamic and behavioural therapies. Among all three, various specific therapeutic approaches have become established, as its original ideas continue to be developed.
How often do we need to meet?
Empirical evidence and research shows that for many clients a fairly small number of sessions is enough to deal with an acute problem: on average 6 to 8. Of course, this can be varied upwards or downwards from person to person.
More difficult issues (such as depression), obviously, take longer – here it may take 20, 30 or more appointments before a client feels stable again.
Another example where it usually takes a little longer: Recent research has shown that clients with suicidal ideations tend to need an average of 15 sessions before they could experience a significant improvement in their well-being.
Is your online counselling 100% secure in terms of data protection?
It is. I use the commercial version of Zoom for online calls. Here I have both specified the location of the server (EU) and set up strict end-to-end encryption of the calls. According to current standards, this meets the EU’s strict data protection guidelines. However, I always keep my eyes open and always adapt when data protection changes – or Zoom.
Do I need to prepare for the counselling sessions?
Research shows that the absolutely most important parameter for the success of counselling or therapy is the client’s participation. You might also say: It is you, not me, who makes our work successful.
In general, the client grows most in the counselling process when they have a positive but realistic attitude towards the counselling. Or to be even more precise:
That is all you need to prepare.
What does "counselling" mean?
Counselling is a term that has become strongly established in the US and UK. (In Germany it is often translated as “therapeutic consultation” or “psychological consultation”).
It is the type of treatment that deals with “milder” mental health problems: anxiety, depression, loneliness, to name but a few. This differs from clinical psychotherapy, which, often in clinics, treats “more severe” cases, e.g. schizophrenic patients.
In Anglo-Saxon countries, however, many people argue that there is actually no fundamental difference between counselling and psychotherapy. The only difference is the setting: counselling is provided in a private practice, while psychotherapy takes place in a clinic.
We can meet either in my private practice in Berlin at Kurfürstendamm/Zoologischer Garten or online from anywhere in the world. You can also mix the two and we can meet live in the practice one day and via Zoom the next. Simply click on the yellow booking button to book your preferred appointment.
To contact me, there are several channels available to you:
I am very much looking forward to hearing from you!